Ditch the Judgment & Embrace the Fabulous You!
- Sally Cross
- Feb 3
- 2 min read
By Sally Cross: Therapeutic Life, Intimacy & Relationship Coach
Midlife, and the years that follow, is a time of transformation, a chapter filled with developing wisdom, growth and experiencing new beginnings. Yet, for many of us, it can also bring challenges with body image. Society often glorifies youth, making it easy to feel like our changing bodies are something that needs “fixing” rather than something to celebrate. But here’s the truth: Your body is incredible, just as it is, right now!
Our body isn’t the enemy. It’s been with us through every experience of our life so far; the laughter, the adventures, the challenges, the physical feats, the health issues, and the late-night parties (not judging!). And it deserves our love, not our criticism.
From Self-Criticism to Self-Celebration
If you find yourself standing in front of the mirror picking apart every little flaw, stop right there! That body has carried you through many of life’s ups and downs, from loss to laughter and all that you've lived through the decades.. Instead of focusing on the “imperfections,” try shifting your perspective to all the wonderful ways your body serves you daily.
Embrace gratitude: Celebrate your body's strength and resilience, rather than criticising its flaws and failures.
Confidence-Boosting Tips
Change the Narrative: If you wouldn’t say it to your friend, don’t say it to yourself. Next time you think, “Ugh, my arms,” try, “Wow, my arms have hugged the people I love.” (notice the flip to a positive!)
Wear What Makes You Feel Good: Forget “dressing for your age” (what is that rule anyway?). Wear colours, styles and fabrics that make you feel amazing. Rock that new outfit, get more adventurous with your wardrobe..
Move Because It Feels Good, Not as Punishment: Exercise shouldn't be a chore, it’s a celebration of what your body can do. Whether you're hitting the gym, enjoying yoga or jogging, Pilates or pole-dancing, cycling in the countryside, dancing in the kitchen or walking in nature, do what makes you happy. Embrace movement that works for you!
Unfollow the Pressure, Follow the Joy: If your social media feed makes you feel low, it’s time for a detox. Fill your space with positivity; follow people who uplift, inspire and make you laugh.
Give Yourself Some Grace: Your body is evolving, just like you, and that is normal! Love yourself, quirks and all. Do You, Be You!
Your Beauty is Beyond Skin Deep
Confidence isn’t about perfection; it’s about self-acceptance. The lines, curves, and changes in our body tell a story of a life well-lived. Instead of wishing to look like your past self, embrace the powerful, beautiful woman you are today.
Finally giving yourself permission to live fully, love deeply and appreciate the person staring back at you in the mirror.
You are worthy, exactly as you are!
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