INTIMACY INSIGHTS FOR MIDLIFE WOMEN –

By Sally Cross, Author of Books & Blogs on Midlife

LESS ACROBATICS, MORE EYE CONTACT(and maybe a nap)

Ah, midlife intimacy.

The phrase alone can make some people blush, laugh … or quietly Google “is low libido contagious?”

Let’s be honest, it’s not quite what it used to be.

In our twenties, we could go from flirty glance to frantic fumble in the time it takes to queue for a kebab.

These days? It takes longer to get out of the compression tights!

And don’t get me started on logistics.

Between the backache, the dog staring from the corner, and the pressing question of “Did I take my HRT today?” — midlife sex can feel more like a military operation than a moment of passion.

Foreplay now involves:

• Remembering where you left your reading glasses.

• Locating lube that doesn’t contain alarming ingredients.

• Negotiating which side of the bed is the cool side.

• Double-checking that the door is locked, the phone is off, and nobody needs a snack, a wee, or emotional reassurance.

Sexy, right?

And yet…

There’s something so beautifully real about intimacy in this stage of life.

It’s not about performance anymore.

It’s about connection, closeness, those delicious goosebumps when your partner strokes your face and actually sees you.

It’s about being naked, emotionally and physically, and not worrying about holding in your tummy (because honestly, it's just not happening… and we’ve all earned the right to exhale).

It’s about rediscovering what feels good… not just what looks good.

It’s about presence, not pressure.

Sure, the bodies may have changed, gravity is rude, and menopause is a mischievous little gremlin , but you know what?

There’s something deeply sexy about someone who knows themselves, owns their needs, and asks for what they really want (even if that’s just to be held… or to go to sleep without anyone touching them at all ).

Intimacy in midlife isn’t gone.

It’s evolving.

It’s less fireworks in the rain , more candlelight and consent.

Less how many times, more how connected did we feel?

And that’s not boring — that’s beautiful.

So if you’re feeling a little disconnected, disheartened, or just plain disinterested, don’t panic. You’re not alone.

You’re just in a new chapter… one that might need a little more curiosity, communication, and creativity (plus a good mattress topper).

 If this is resonating with you, then my book "She Rises" is going to be your new bedside bestie, a midlife woman’s guide to reclaiming intimacy, sensuality and sovereignty. No BS, no shame, just honest talk and empowering tools to help you reconnect with you… and maybe your partner too.

Sally x

My 2nd book in the Intimacy Series, She Rises, A Midlife Woman's Intimacy Guide To Reconnection & Reclaiming Her Sensual Self, is available on Amazon in Kindle & Paperback formats x