Is This It? Are you drifting along, wondering what your role is as a Man in Midlife?

Sally Cross
Jul 1
2 min read

By Sally Cross, Intimacy & Relationship Coach, Therapeutic Coach & Author.

You've hit midlife. You’ve built a life, perhaps a family, a career. From the outside, things look pretty good. But something feels off.

The spark has gone.

The connection feels thin.

The bedroom is quiet, or awkward, or filled with unspoken tension. The conversations are surface-level.

The laughter doesn’t come as easily.

You’re not failing. You’re not the only one.

You might be wondering, Is this it?

And that’s the question so many men in midlife silently ask, not because they don’t love their partners or appreciate their lives, but because they’re craving something more real. More connected. More honest. More them.

I see YOU! Men who have been strong, dependable, good-hearted, but somewhere along the way, they lost their connection to passion, to purpose, and to the emotional and sexual aliveness that once defined their relationship.

They’re stuck between two worlds: the outdated model of masculinity that taught them to stay quiet and tough it out, and the new one that asks them to feel, to communicate, to connect. But no one ever taught them how.

That’s why I wrote: Midlife Man: Crisis or Opportunity?

A No-Fluff Guide To Intimate Reconnection & Modern Masculinity.

It’s not a lecture. It’s not about blame. It’s not therapy in book form.

It’s a warm, straight-talking invitation to pause, reflect, and show up differently — for yourself, and for your relationship.

What This Book Offers:

This book is for the man who’s:

In a long-term relationship that feels more like co-existing than loving.

Newly single and unsure how to date in today’s emotional climate.

Quietly wondering if he's lost his mojo.

Feeling rejected, turned off, or just… flat.

Tempted by outside attention because he doesn't know how to reach his partner anymore.

It’s for the man who wants to reconnect emotionally, sexually, and honestly but needs a roadmap that actually speaks his language.

We cover:

Emotional literacy and how it impacts your relationship.

The link between trust and sexual desire.

Why communication keeps shutting down — and how to open it up.

The reality of porn, fantasy, and infidelity — and what to do instead.

How to understand her, and yourself, better in bed and beyond.

What it really means to show up as a modern man in love.

And we do it with honesty, no-fluff guidance, and compassion.

This isn’t a book about fixing you. It’s a book about finding you again — the deeper, wiser, more present version of yourself who’s ready to stop drifting and start connecting.

Midlife isn’t a crisis. It’s an opportunity. And this might just be your wake-up call!