NOT JUST A CUDDLE: HOW CUDDLING AND HUGS CAN BENEFIT MIND & BODY, & ENHANCE RELATIONSHIPS.

By Sally Cross, Therapeutic Life, Intimacy & Relationship Coach

 www.naturalchangecoaching.com

Cuddling with a partner has numerous emotional, physical and psychological benefits. It strengthens bonds, enhances intimacy and promotes well-being. Below are some key benefits and insights into the optimal time needed to maximise the effects:

Benefits of Cuddling:

1. Releases Oxytocin ("The Love Hormone")❤

Oxytocin release during cuddling promotes feelings of love, trust, and security.

It reduces stress levels and fosters deeper emotional connection.

2. Reduces Stress and Anxiety 🤗

Cuddling lowers cortisol (stress hormone) levels.

Physical touch calms the nervous system, helping both partners feel more relaxed and supported.

3. Improves Sleep 😴

The calming effects of oxytocin can enhance sleep quality, particularly for people who struggle with insomnia or anxiety.

4. Boosts Immune System 👍

Physical affection has been shown to strengthen the immune system by reducing stress and promoting overall well-being.

5. Strengthens Emotional Bond 👩‍❤️‍👨👩‍❤️‍👩 👨‍❤️‍👨

Non-verbal communication through touch deepens emotional intimacy and helps resolve conflicts.

It fosters a sense of safety and understanding in the relationship.

6. Enhances Heart Health ❤

Cuddling can lower blood pressure and reduce the risk of heart disease.

The calming and relaxing effects improve overall cardiovascular health.

7. Triggers Dopamine and Serotonin Release 😁

These neurotransmitters improve mood, reduce feelings of depression, and increase overall happiness.

8. Improves Sexual Intimacy 👫👭👬

Cuddling often increases sexual arousal and satisfaction by reinforcing physical connection and emotional closeness.

HOW LONG SHOULD YOU CUDDLE FOR OPTIMUM BENEFITS?

While there’s no strict rule, research suggests 10-20 MINUTES of cuddling is enough to trigger the physiological and emotional benefits:

10 MINUTES: Reduces stress and lowers cortisol.

15-20 MINUTES: Increases oxytocin significantly, boosting emotional connection and mood.

5-10 MINUTES: Post-sex cuddling post enhances intimacy and satisfaction in relationships.

Incorporating cuddling into your daily routine, whether in the morning, during a film, or before bed, can ensure lasting positive effects on your relationship and overall well-being.

HOW ABOUT A QUICKIE?

We can also benefit from a quick hug. Here are some examples :

Morning Hug (1-2 minutes):

Start the day with a close hug or lying intertwined before getting out of bed. This can set a positive emotional tone for the day.

Goodbye Hug (30 seconds to 1 minute):

A warm, lingering hug before heading out the door strengthens emotional security.

Add a forehead kiss or hand squeeze for extra intimacy.

TV/Relaxation Cuddles: 🎬

Curl up together on the couch while watching a show.

Resting your head on their chest or intertwining legs works well.

Bedtime Spooning: 🥄

A few minutes of cuddling before sleeping (even if you separate after) can enhance connection and improve sleep.

Surprise Hug:

Grab your partner for a surprise hug from behind while they’re cooking, working, or doing chores.

This creates a spark of joy and intimacy in ordinary moments.

Key Tip: The "Six-Second Rule"

Research shows that even a six-second hug is enough to create a meaningful emotional connection by releasing oxytocin. This makes shorter cuddle sessions feel impactful without requiring a significant time investment.

By weaving these smaller cuddling moments into daily life, couples can sustain intimacy and keep their relationship thriving.

Happy Hugging! 🤗