INTIMACY INSIGHTS FOR MIDLIFE WOMEN – LESS ACROBATICS, MORE EYE CONTACT(and maybe a nap)😴

By Sally Cross, Intimacy & Relationship Coach, Therapeutic Coach & Author.

Ah, midlife intimacy.

The phrase alone can make some people blush 😳, laugh 😂… or quietly Google “is low libido contagious?” 🤔

Let’s be honest, it’s not quite what it used to be.

In our twenties, we could go from flirty glance 💃 to frantic fumble 🔥 in the time it takes to queue for a kebab.

These days? It takes longer to get out of the compression tights. 🧦

And don’t get me started on logistics.

Between the backache 😬, the dog staring from the corner 🐶, and the pressing question of “Did I take my HRT today?” 💊 — midlife sex can feel more like a military operation than a moment of passion.

Foreplay now involves:

🔍 remembering where you left your reading glasses

💧 locating lube that doesn’t contain alarming ingredients

🌡️ negotiating which side of the bed is the cool side

🔒 and double-checking that the door is locked, the phone is off, and nobody needs a snack, a wee, or emotional reassurance

Sexy, right? 😅

And yet…

There’s something so beautifully real about intimacy in this stage of life. ❤️

It’s not about performance anymore.

It’s about connection, closeness, those delicious goosebumps when your partner strokes your face and actually sees you. 👀

It’s about being naked, emotionally and physically, and not worrying about holding in your tummy (because honestly, it’s just not happening… and we’ve all earned the right to exhale). 😮‍💨

It’s about rediscovering what feels good… not just what looks good.

It’s about presence, not pressure. 🧘‍♀️

Sure, the bodies may have changed, gravity is rude 🫠, and menopause is a mischievous little gremlin 🌀, but you know what?

There’s something deeply sexy about someone who knows themselves, owns their needs, and asks for what they really want 💬 (even if that’s just to be held… or to go to sleep without anyone touching them at all 🛌).

Intimacy in midlife isn’t gone.

It’s evolving. 🔁

It’s less fireworks in the rain 🎆, more candlelight and consent 🕯️

Less how many times, more how connected did we feel? 💞

And that’s not boring — that’s beautiful. ✨

So if you’re feeling a little disconnected, disheartened, or just plain disinterested, don’t panic. You’re not alone.

You’re just in a new chapter… one that might need a little more curiosity, communication, and creativity (plus a good mattress topper). 🛏️

🌹 If this is resonating with you, then my upcoming book "She Rises" is going to be your new bedside bestie, a midlife woman’s guide to reclaiming intimacy, sensuality and sovereignty. No BS, no shame, just honest talk and empowering tools to help you reconnect with you… and maybe your partner too 😉

So watch this space… she’s rising soon. 📖✨

And until then, laugh 😂, lube 💧, and love yourself wildly 💃

Sally x